The guilty mom

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If there’s one emotion I’m familiar with as a woman, it’s guilt.  And I’m pretty sure I am not alone.

it would probably take me all day to list the many, many things a woman can feel guilty about—all in the course of a day.

there’s the guilt over sleeping in when I could’ve been working out, or the guilt over the fact that I haven’t worked out in weeks.  Then there’s the laundry that’s been piling up for days, waiting to be washed, or if you’re like me, there’s the laundry that’s been clean for days, but is still sitting in the dryer waiting to be folded and put away.  Please tell me you do that too?

there are times when my husband will point out something that the kids should or shouldn’t be doing, and instantly, I will feel guilt, thinking that it’s my fault for not addressing that sooner.

oh, and we mustn’t forget the guilt that hangs over us when we’ve gained those pesky extra pounds that just won’t go away.  Or maybe they would go away if only I’d start eating the way I know I should. Or maybe not.  Either way, I feel the guilt.

and what about those friends from church who I suggested we have over months ago, and we never did.  Or the new mama that I intended to call or make a meal for….but never did.

and don’t get me started on the “mommy guilt”.  Ugh.

 

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Guilt is awful, and it can totally paraylize you, robbing you of the joy that ours to claim.

We’re so hard on ourselves as women, setting up standards that we can’t begin to realistically keep.  And yet, when we don’t keep them, we beat ourselves up and feel inadequate and unworthy.

Please hear me here: it’s only when we begin to see who we are in Jesus that we will be free from the guilt that binds us.

it’s only when we see that His death on the cross was enough, and that we can’t add to or take away from who we are in Him.

We are his children and he delights in us!  Did you hear that?  My friend, he delights in us!  And he rejoices over us with singing!

He hasn’t put us where we are, just to leave us on our own and go on his merry way.  No, he has gone before us, preparing and equipping us for good works; for the work he has for us to do!

and you know what?  There’s NO guilt in Him!  He doesn’t look down on us with shame, pointing his finger and shaking his head when we mess up.

And he doesn’t frown on us when we’re weary and just can’t seem to take the next step.

1 There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
2 For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death.
Romans 8:1-2

 

What at a beautiful reminder we have in Romans 8:1-2, that we are free!

we are daughters of the King, and there’s no condemnation for us, my friends!

Jesus was perfect in our place, so we don’t have to be!

so the next time you mess up and guilt starts creeping in, remind yourself who you are in Christ!

No more guilt, my friends!

 

** what areas do you easily find yourself feeling guilt?  

 

 

 

 

the struggles of a woman

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So last week, we were enjoying sunshine and 75, had the windows open, and didn't have to wear a coat; it was heavenly.

this week, not so much.  It's 50 degrees here today, and I'm freezing.

Welcome to the Midwest.

 

 

I shared  a while back that I want to be real on here.  I want this little Internet space to be a place where people feel welcome and at ease.

 

 

A place where they can relate and feel relieved that someone else knows and understands what they're going through.

 

so many of the blogs that I read are a safe haven; a place where I can read and go away lighter than when I first started reading.

 

i can honestly say that I've grown and gleaned so much spiritually, simply from reading these amazing blogs.

 

and that's what I want for my blog.

 

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Fo quite a few months now, my heart has been burdened for women.

Women juggle so many plates, and can often feel overwhelmed, frustrated, and inadequate.

We can be in a room full of people and feel completely alone.

and we can feel defined by our failures, rather than seeing our worth in Jesus.

 

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It saddens me how, as women, we struggle with so many things that rob us of the joy that is ours in Christ.

 

So often, we have babies and never quite recover from the affect pregnancy and age has had on our body.

 

And as hard as we may try, we can't get back that twenty-something shape that we once had

 

and for some women,  that can be devastating and it can bring about an insecurity that robs us of having sweet relationships with other women, or even our spouse.

 

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I totally believe that the Enemy wants nothing more than to bring women down, and keep them from experiencing the wonderful freedom that has been given to us in Jesus.

 

and so, with that being said, I'd love to address and discuss some of these issues and even share my own struggles with these very things.

 

God has so much more for us that the bondage that we often find ourselves in, and he wants us to be free!

 

John 8:32~

" and you will know the Truth, and the Truth will set you free."

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